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She only approaches men who are incapable of making a commitment. He constantly runs into selfish women who use him. From disappointed loves to failed loves, we sometimes have the impression of replaying the same score. In her book La Répétition amoureuse, psychotherapist Maryse Vaillant is interested in this subject, and more particularly in women who constantly reactivate the same type of devastating relationships.
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"I always run into the same kind of men," do we moan? The therapist refuses this determinism: "If everyone let go of their victimhood, left this bittersweet role to the locker room and recognized themselves in part responsible for their failures without feeling guilty, then the attraction to suffering would weaken. It is important to no longer be afraid of repetition to get out of it. It can be negative, sure, but it can also prepare for love. In her essay, she paints different profiles of unhappy lovers. Impossible not to identify with these similar evocations of the characters of a good television series - we think of Desperate Housewives - in which the characters are so well hollowed out that the roughness of each speaks to us. There is the good Samaritan woman who saves the depressed, the emotional addict who fills her lacks of love ... Sylvie, 30, a single fashion editor, fits perfectly into this last register. She is now able to analyze herself with a smile: "I am recovering from three successive fusional passions, condemned in advance. And today, I readily recognize myself in this maxim: "In love, you are never deceived except by yourself." In this area more than elsewhere, we are first victims of ourselves, not of the other. As far as I'm concerned, it's as if, as soon as I get to know someone, my subconscious senses in advance its capacity for nuisance.
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The romantic encounter is indeed the moment par excellence when two unconscious crosses, recognize each other and choose each other as complementary in their lacks. As long as the latter are not identified, changing partners cannot make it possible to fill them. And we are doomed to repeat the same failures.
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For the psychoanalyst Catherine Bergeret-Amselek, author in particular of Life to the test of time (Desclée de Brouwer), this amorous reproduction speaks to us of our childhood: “When, adults, we are still prisoners of our oedipus and of our love for mom and dad, we cause the relationship to fail. Because, basically, we are not looking for the real encounter with the other, we are on the contrary trying to find the link to the father or the mother that we had as a child, that is to say a relationship of love already known and reassuring. . I wanted them to keep me at bay, strong enough to run away from me and, at the same time, fragile enough to need me. Later, she realized that it was actually her mother's lack of love that was pushing her towards these excessive and frustrating adventures: she sought to relive the absence felt in her childhood.
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Newly divorced 50-year-old salesman, Patrick has the impression of having scuttled his best relationships: "It's always wonderful at first, and then, over time, I can't help myself. do for that to fail. I become elusive, secretive, aggressive. Patrick finally realized that he was reproducing the incommunicability observed as a child in his parents. "I recreate the same situation to try to overcome it, but it's always the same: I can't do it," he analyzes.
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According to Catherine Bergeret-Amselek, “Many of us identify with the parental couple. And regardless of our oedipal bond, we can try to measure up to our parents if the couple they form seem wonderful to us. Or, in a reversed logic, if the parental relationship seems disastrous to us, we will sometimes want to repair this image, recreate a difficult relationship to try to resolve it. That said, if we are aware of it and take a step back, the phenomenon of repetition can end up paying off. At 20 or 40, we are not going through the same thing, and each step opens up new possibilities.
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